I realize that opinions are like assholes....everyone's got one,which would be why I never post or write about religion or politics, it's just not my thing. And I'm usually busy ranting and raving about Prince Charming ~ But today, I just have something to say......and not everyone will agree, which is okay, that's your choice and that's what this is about .....being able to choose.
Until recently I never really gave it much thought, call me selfish or oblivious if you will, but I never really thought about same sex marriages. I have a lot of gay friends who have fabulous partners, but I never focused on the whole "marriage thing" and NO it's not because I am against it, I guess I never stopped to think about it not being "legal or accepted" by others. Or maybe it's because I see my gay friends as that ... My friends, I don't refer to people as my gay friend, single friend, living in sin friend, married, divorced 3 times, black, yellow or purple friend. I'm not sure why it should matter to anyone, who you wish to lay your head next to at the end of the night, as long as your cherished and loved. I mean people get married all the time right? Every time you turn around someone is getting married, divorced, remarried, over and over again. You can get a mail order bride, you can get married on Reality TV show without ever meeting! Really? And That's okay with you? I don't see people protesting on the court house steps for that! But letting 2 people that are the same sex get marry, who want to get married is not okay??? Are you serious? Why not? It's just something I don't understand! We don't choose who we fall in love with ....why do voters get to choose if gay couples can marry? In this day and age its not only sad, it's just ridiculous!
In January, Florida finally got their shit together an legalized same sex marriages (who knows maybe pot is next). I was honored when a lifelong family friend asked if I could officiate his wedding to his partner of 13 years. I was also freaked out because I am a total virgin and had never performed a wedding .....much less a gay wedding! OMG - What will I say? What do I pronounce them? What will I wear? I mean really you would have thought it was all about me, and that I was going to be the blushing bride, the way my brian kept firing off questions in my head!!! I was so nervous..... did I ever mention I hate public speaking? That I took Speech class so many times , I lost count until I finally passed it only because the class had like 5 people in it!!! I know hard to believe that I am could ever be speechless.
The big day was rapidly approaching, and I was more nervous by each and every passing day!! I made the girls at work sit at lunch time as I read the script to practice, I had my captive audience at home "Jack and Jill" the pups who I read it to at night (okay ...maybe I had a cookie in hand), along with the hubster ( who could have probably recited it for me) I made Mama Pepper come to the rehearsal dinner to help calm my nerves ( because as the gem will tell you ......she talks to everyone)! We were welcomed by their amazing family and friends and that's when I knew I could this - for them!
The day of the wedding the grooms were beaming that their special day that they had waited for 13 years to have was finally here! They did an amazing job with the help of their family and friends, I can honestly say that this was one of the most beautiful weddings ( besides my own...but of course) that I have even been to, it also was one of the most REAL weddings that I have even been witness to. From the gorgeous outside venue, the elegant flowers, decorations, pouring of the unity sand, exchanging of rings , and the vows they wrote about their struggles they face head on together and how their love gets them through it, everything came from the heart. I stood with my knees knocking and butterfly in my belly, in front of all their family and friends and witnessed what real, raw, unconditional love is. As tears flowed down their faces, and the faces of all those who came in love and support for them, I finished the ceremony and proudly pronounced them Husband and Husband ( and thankfully my voice didn't even crack)!
We all have daily battles and struggles we fight, I know I do......but can you for a second imagine NOT being able to marry the one you love, not because they didn't love you back, but because some dumb law declared that marriage was only between a man and a woman? Or because someone else's religious views says it wrong. Can you imagine loving someone that you've spent a lifetime with, only to have something happen to them and because your not considered married - you don't have rights or a say in their care, or well being? Why with all the evil things that already happens daily in this world today like riots, bombings, rape, murder etc. why can't we just let Love be Love?
At the end of the day does it really matter what sex you are and what sex you choose to love? In the end we all strive for the same thing, someone who will make us complete and who will love us during the good, the bad and the ugly. It doesn't seem fair that there are a few states that are still trying to fight same sex marriage. Is there really nothing better for people to do then protest who can marry who? How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot and you could not marry your love because you were a man and she was a woman? Just let Love be Love and let the world be a better place!